Living through the seasons of grief.
Comfort for the Day was written after the death of our precious 3 ½ year old son, Dawson Tesla Nicola. The ache in my body, mind, and heart was overwhelming. Was there any comfort for the relentless, chaffing pain? Where could I go for relief that would help heal my broken heart? People in pain can become desperate. I began to spill out my pain in heart wrenching words to God, written in a journal. Soon I discovered that the process of thoughts rushing from my mind, flowing down my shoulder and arm, finally escaping through my fingers holding the pen, was in fact an experience of solace. I also searched my Bible for hope, healing, and relief, to discover comfort in so many places of Scripture that I couldn’t keep this treasure to myself.
Therefore, Comfort for the Day has come to you. My mission is to offer one of the best healing tools for those who grieve through my book. Comfort for the Day is a gift that brings personalized healing that endures forever. It becomes the reader’s story of how God is faithful to heal our broken hearts. Comfort for the Day is a truly useful book that friends, ministries, businesses, and care providers will be confident giving to the bereaved.
As you explore the web site, Comfort for the Day, you will find short articles written just for those who mourn and another category for those who want to learn how to better comfort the grieving. Through both of these blog categories, it is my desire that the grieving process will be better understood by the grieving and better supported by those who care about the grieving.
As I experienced healing from my loss, I looked for ways to raise awareness about bereavement. As a high school teacher, I learned many ways to engage my students with the content I was teaching . Much of that type of learning is interactive and fun. Therefore, when I facilitate a Comfort for the Day Workshop, it includes small group work, discussions, and goal planning both for the group as well as individuals. I am available to speak on the topic of grieving and healing from loss in either seminar format or stand alone presentations. My focus is to raise awareness of the grieving experience and to assist the audience with skills for becoming renowned comforters. In a world that is bent on pain and death, individuals who will come along side the hurting are like a warm blanket on a chilly, dark night.
“I have never attended anything like this. I found it very helpful.” Missoula MT
“Great workshop! The most useful part was the exercise where we built a care plan for a loss.” Yakima WA
“If you want to help a grieving friend, but aren’t quite sure how, this workshop is the place to be.” Carmichael CA
“Thank you, Karen, for a creative and safe learning environment.” Weott CA
“This was awesome. I was helped by learning what really helps a bereaved family. It is all about them and my part is to become a good listener.” ACS Retreat at Leoni Meadows, Grizzly Flat California
“I came away with ideas to formulate a team to help the grieving.” Fargo ND
“Everyone can gain something from attending a CFD workshop.” Helena MT
February 4 & 5 Cloverdale SDA Church, Boise Idaho
February 17 & 18 Paradise SDA Church, Paradise CA
February 24 & 25 Ukiah SDA Church, Ukiah CA
July Camp Agape Children’s Bereavement Camp TX
August 1 – 4 Lake Tahoe SDA Camp Meeting, Lake Tahoe CA
Recently, I have completed my certification for Grieve Coaching. This type of sacred work is deeply satisfying for me as I have the privilege of stepping into the vulnerable space of someone’s bereavement for the purpose of coaching them through what I call, “Grief Land.” Each one travels through “Grief Land” on their own unique path. However, those who have gone on before often leave signposts to help direct other travelers. I believe that no one should travel this dark and overwhelming path alone. As a coach, it is my goal to guide my clients towards healing and completion of unresolved aspects of their relationship with their deceased loved one.