Living through the seasons of grief.
To my friends who mourn in this season of giving thanks, I give you space to do so. I give you freedom to grieve. I offer you support in your bereavement. The searing paradox of what you are experiencing and what others are celebrating may feel like a hot iron pressing down on the already shredded parts of your heart. Oh how I wish I could take this all away from you, but it is beyond my ability to do so. What I can do, is let you know I care. It is true that I don’t fully understand your pain today. Maybe even you don’t.
But please absorb this idea; there is a Divine Comforter who does understand AND knows how to soothe the deep ache. Welcome the blessing of this spiritual reality.
May I suggest spilling your pain out on paper? Let the feelings flow, let them go. Then with personal discipline, choose to write down a list of a few things for which you are honestly thankful. CAUTION: writing a “thanks-giving” list before attending to your pain, might result in building a façade ~ a pretence or false appearance of gratitude. This is yet another season in your grieving. How do you want to live through it? Living genuinely with our grief, means being honest with the pain. Deal with the hurts first so there will be space for the gratitude.
This season I am thankful for
The hands that hold mine,
Hearts that hurt with me
Ears that always listen
Arms always ready to hug
Friends who always support
Family who always remember
By Tanya Lord
My Thanksgiving prayer for you is that you will feel emotionally safe where ever you spend this holiday. I pray that your heart will be receptive to comfort, tenderness, and healing. I trust the work of the Divine Comforter to provide the solace, peace, and hope you need most. May you have a genuinely thank-filled day.