Living through the seasons of grief.
As an educator, I am well aware that we need to re-learn and be re-taught multiple times before we really grasp a new concept or skill. So here I am once again sharing with you the invaluable roll of listening to others tell their stories of loss and pain.
“Comfort listening” is different than other listening types of interactive conversations. In ordinary chit chat, we are engaged in light, jovial, banter. Frequently, we may be thinking of our own responses as much or more than to what another is saying. We interrupt, jump in, and even attempt to finish the speaker’s thoughts. Or at least, I do this way too often. But “Comfort Listening” requires an attentive awareness only to the person we are hearing.
Comfort listening calls forth:
“Comfort Listening” may not come naturally to most of us. I know that I am still practicing and developing this skill with my clients. I am even finding that if I practice it in ordinary day to day conversations, I feel so much better about the time I spend with others. May we never, never, never give up improving our listening skills.
“Listening is a very deep practice. You have to empty yourself.
You have to leave space in order to listen . . . ”
Thich Nhat Hanh